As I was out and about today, I realized something about people. People are almost always lying or fibbing. Now, I'm sure everyone reading this does too...at least every once in a while. So as I walked with a relative into the restaurant, the lady asked "How are you?" My relative's response was "I'm good." Now, this was interesting to me because we had just been in the car talking about how bad she was feeling. Some people are always walking around with smiles on their faces. Is this because they are always happy? Are they on happy pills? Or are they using it as a cover? Sure, for some people it might be that they just always tend to be happy, but is that true for all people? I highly doubt it. As I was having a conversation with a close friend earlier this evening, I realized something else. Things are not always as they seem. Especially when it comes to people and emotions. As we spoke, he opened up to me about his life at this moment and some things that he said shocked me. He is one of the people that I was talking about earlier, always has a smile on his face no matter his mood. The problem is, in this world we all need help. Whether we need help moving because we are physically incapable of lifting, or we need advice from friends because life is giving us problems, we all need help. My question is, why do we hide the help we need? Why do we walk around with smiles on our faces, deceiving the people that we see everyday when we may in fact be needing them? As humans, I believe it is in our nature to trust. From the day you are born, you trust your parents and as you get older, you start to trust friends. So why is it that as we get into adolescence and adulthood that we deny the trust that we once had for a false mask that we choose to put on daily. It is just a show and if you can't truly be yourself...then who does that make you?
Good insight Lexi. I think that, like in the case of your relative at the resteraunt, it is not that they are "lying" it is just that they do not know the host so why burden a stranger with your problems? As for when we do this with our friends I think it boils down to trust. We all have friends that we can and cannot trust with personal information. When I have "deep" stuff to unload i am very choosey about who I unload to. My first choice will ALWAYS be to open up to someone who will give me GODLY advice!!! Secondly, I will only talk to someone who will not go spreading my business around. I believe that the bigger issue here is NOT that people lie about how they are feeling and put faces on, but that we do not not know how to be a true friend to each other which causes our friends to "clam up". Those that live their lives as a trustworthy and honest friend often do not have "shallow" friendships because people KNOW they can trust you. Just a thought! Thanks for inviting me to your blog.
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